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I get quite a few emails, and apart from the usual about dating sites, two of the most asked questions are, "Can
people fall for each other over the internet before they've met in person?" and "Can long distance relationships really work?"
Judging from the feedback I get, the answer to these questions is yes people CAN and often do fall for each other prior to
meeting, and yes long distance relationships CAN work. The next question is, "What if it's both, never met AND they live a
long way apart?" If you want to read the email that inspired me to ask this question, I've posted it below (I've changed the
names and locations for privacy reasons), or if you have any comments, opinions or experiences you might want to add, I've
duplicated this on a messageboard forum which is: www.tawaguy.proboards74.com
I fixed a few spelling errors and added a bit of punctuation, but apart from that, this is pretty much how I got
it.
Hi,
You seem to have done a lot of research on internet dating but I haven't seen much about falling for someone you haven't
met, or anything about long distance relationships.
Here's what happened to me. I joined a few of those dating sites you recommend on the reviews pages and got emailing
with a very nice woman. We get on really well and all that - extremely well in fact but here's the problem. I live in *********
(a medium size town in NZ) and she lives in ******** (a city in Australia). Some of my friends are happy for me and say
I should go for it, but most say I'm stupid and it can never work. I sort of understand why they say it can never
work because she has a career and family in Australia which would make it almost impossibe for her to live in NZ, the same
situation I'm in here. Here's problem number 2. I find myself really falling for this woman, and my feelings are getting stronger
every day, and I'm sure she feels the same way. We IM each other several times a day, sometimes for hours at a time. We have
over an hour on the phone together every night, and talk very intimately about our fantasies, most of which are just that
- sexual fantasies and nothing more. It's even got to the stage where we have fantastic phone sex every
night which we eagerly look forward to.
So you might ask, what's the problem? Go for it!
Well, the problem is I probably feel deep down we could never be together permanently but, I can't let her go - I don't
want to let her go. She makes me smile when I think about her, which is almost all the time.
Any suggestions?
*******
I did reply.
Hi *******,
I see your quandry and after thinking about it for some time, came to the conclusion that if you enjoy each other as
much as you say, stay with it and carry on enjoying each other for as long as you can make it last. You never know,
you could be hit by a bus next week and if you ended it now, you will have lost a week's happiness. Go for it mate and good
luck!
Brian
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